The Love Bomber

 

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A love bomb is a manipulation technique 

used most often by narcissists, and even cult leaders,

to gain power over someone

They bomb you with affection, excessive attention

and gifts to ‘lure you in'.

The intention is to make their victim 

helpless, vulnerable and indebted to them.

Love bombing can be part of early signs of abuse

in a relationship, what we often call 'red flags'.

It can also be used in the 'reconciliation' phase of the abuse cycle, especially after an incident of abuse.

Love bombing becomes an effective tool to abusers as they exert coercive control over a partner.

What trauma causes love bombing?

At the core of a typical love bomber is hidden 

crippling low self-esteem.Some form of childhood trauma, emotional neglect or emotional abuse from previous partners has caused them to develop no internal sense of worth or self-esteem.

Love bombing can harm the intended target's self-esteem and sense of self-worth,

which can cause feelings of shame and self-doubt.

Children who have been subjected to emotional abuse may continue to feel its effects into adulthood.

These effects could include extremely low self-esteem, seeking bad relationships,

and other physical or mental effects.

Do love bombers actually love you?

They may appear charming and

exciting in the beginning,

but this usually fades away and is

replaced with emotional abuse.

It's important to recognise your own

vulnerabilities in relationships

and that love bombing isn't a sign of affection.

In a healthy relationship, you’re allowed to have open discussions, slowly get to know one another,

ask for more time or to slow things down

and to confide in your partner without fear

Love bombing is a controlling and manipulative

tactic most often used by narcissists

and abusive people

They seek to quickly obtain affection and attention before tearing

their victims down.